Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts

Hinduism - What Is Attitude Towards Widows In a Hindu Society?


Given the traditional belief that a Hindu woman's primary function is that of a wife and mother, being a widow is seen as the worst tragedy that can befall a woman and is viewed as the karmic fulfilment of some heinous past act.

Because the basic idea of the marriage rite is that the bride's identity is amalgamated with the groom's, a woman without a spouse was seen to have lost her individuality.

Remarrying was also out of the question for her since she had already assumed her late husband's identity.

A lady was obliged to remove all the symbols of a married woman as soon as her husband died, including wiping red vermilion from her hair part, shattering her glass bangles, and, in southern India, cutting the thread on her mangal sutra.

She was banned to wear jewelry, colorful clothes, or other physical adornments for the rest of her life, was required to keep her hair trimmed short, and was required to dedicate herself to religious deeds in honor of her deceased spouse.

She was deemed an unhappy and unfavorable person since she had been widowed, and she was barred from any auspicious ceremonies, spending the rest of her life performing the domestic chores.

The practice of burning a widow on her husband's funeral pyre, known as sati, was popular in certain areas of India, although it was uncommon in others.

In reality, there was a lot of variance on this bleak image.

The age of a woman when she was widowed, whether she had children, and the social position of her husband's family were the most important determinants.

A widowed lady in her eighties would most certainly remain the family matriarch, a young widow with boys would keep her family status via her offspring, and even a child widow in a rich family might live a somewhat comfortable life, although with various constraints.

A widow's situation would be considerably more insecure if one or more of these characteristics were missing, and there is little question that many widows had tough lives in the past.

Even in contemporary times, a lady whose spouse dies early is often seen as unlucky and hence a source of ill luck.

One of the main aims of nineteenth-century Hindu reformers was to improve the situation of widows, and it has grown increasingly frequent for widows to remarry, despite the fact that some of the most traditional Hindus do not accept this.

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Hinduism - What Is Vivaha Samskara?


Vivaha ("strengthening") Samskara.

 The fifteenth of the life cycle ceremonies (samskaras) is when a man and a woman become husband and wife.

Except for the few individuals who remained lifelong celibates (naisthika brahmacharin), marriage was a necessary part of every man's (and woman's) life, because the children born through marriage allowed him to pay off one of the three debts, this one to the ancestral spirits (pitr).

The literal translation of the word vivaha—it means "to uplift" and "complete" a man—is one indication of the importance attached to marriage.

Marriage has always been a serious matter in Indian society, and for many Indians, it is still the most important day of their lives.

The importance of marriage is highlighted in the dharma literature, which lists eight different types of marriage.

Eight classical forms of marriage are also available.

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Hinduism - What Is A Hypogamous Marriage Or Pratiloma In A Hindu Society?


 A marriage in which the wife comes from a group with higher social status than the husband.

Such marriages were strictly forbidden in the dharma literature, and this prohibition illustrates the role of women in determining a group’s social status.

It is deemed acceptable for women to marry people of higher social status (hypergamous marriage), because it is believed that they are improving the status of their group by becoming associated with a higher status group.

Marriage to a man of lower status was strictly forbidden, since the exchange of women implies some sort of equality between the two groups, and thus drags the community’s status down.

In the dharma literature, hypogamous marriage was known as pratiloma, “against the hair” (i.e., in an unnatural direction).

For further information see Jadunath Sarkar, A History of the Dasanami Naga Sanyasis, 1958.

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