It wasn't by chance that we started talking about desire and meditation right at the outset of the key lessons. We were able to concentrate our desire enough to begin meditating.
Meditation opens up quiet perception and an instinctive recognition of our nervous system as we dive deep into absolute bliss consciousness. This recognition becomes stronger as we gain more yogic experience, and we develop a stronger desire for the spiritual, which leads to more activities. “Bhakti” refers to a rising longing for spiritual experience. Bhakti is a combination of our appetite and the purification that occurs in our nervous system. And it is a conscious decision on our part – we want to enter the divine wish. Bhakti rises like a spiral of everyday workouts, propelling one further towards ever-higher stages of yoga practice and spiritual knowledge.
What exactly does this have to do with tantric sex?
To begin with, if we approach so-called tantric sex in the hopes of getting better sex, that is about what we can get in the best of circumstances. Victory was fleeting. It would be a whole different ballgame if we approach tantric sex on waves of bhakti spawned by our everyday regimen of advanced yoga practices. So we will be flushed with holy ecstasy for the rest of our lives. As a result, the first piece of advice for tantric sex is to lay a solid base of everyday meditation, pranayama, and other advanced yoga activities. Then, long when we start doing it, tantric sex will come naturally and have true divine promise.
It was the same when we began doing advanced yoga poses like mulabandha and siddhasana, which are both meant to stimulate sexual energy upward into our nervous system. If we had completed mulabandha and siddhasana first, before meditation and pranayama, we would have been attempting to send energy up into mainly clogged channels, with no chance of success. It's preferable to clean the house first, and then continue to do so on a regular basis as we try to transfer sexual energy upward into the higher realms of our nervous system. The same is true for tantric sex in its early stages.
How would we decide if we're able to engage in tantric sexual practices? It's easy enough. For our sexual lives, we will like to do something regenerative. It would be important to us. It would be easier if we like it more. It's easy to sense our degree of bhakti, and it's also easy for others to consider. It occurs as a part of advanced yoga techniques purifying the nervous system. It's as if a magnetism grows inside us, beckoning us to do something. Since we need to do something radical, we need a firm call to bring us into a new religiously focused form of sexual interaction.
To engage in tantric sex, you must have a strong urge. We're about to embark on a quest to change the direction of a massive flood. We learn to participate in sex for the intent of nurturing sexual energies upward, rather than our profoundly rooted fascination with orgasm, in tantric sex. Spiritual sexual energy cultivation comes first, followed by orgasm. A significant change in our goals. We can extend our sexual working to a cultivating mode if our bhakti is good, just as we can practice our arousal raised in siddhasana to a much higher function over time. In tantric sex, it's the same way – a long cycle of incremental preparation. Tantric sex isn't something you should do immediately. It's a process that takes months or years to complete. It will happen as our bhakti becomes stronger, as it must in order for us to complete our path to enlightenment.
Everyone's sexual experience through yoga would be different. It would be as special to and of us as our sexual preferences.
There is no need to incorporate yogic approaches into sexual affairs for those who are light to moderate in their sex life, while practicing tantric sex would undoubtedly improve lovemaking, as well as the rest of advanced yoga activities. Gender on occasion isn't much of a barrier to enlightenment. Standard yoga techniques (right-handed tantra) mentioned in the key lessons would suffice to complete the task.
It's a different matter for people who are really interested in women. Though the pelvic storehouse of prana is vast, there is a limit to how much one can eject while remaining spiritually alive.
This is particularly true for males, who release a significant amount of prana during orgasm with the ejaculation of sperm. It is somewhat accurate for women as well, but not to the same extent. It is the man who owns the keys to tantric sex, since he is the one who loses the most prana during orgasm. As a result, he is also the one that decides the length of the sexual joining and, as a result, the amount of sexual energy that can be cultivated during lovemaking. While a woman's bhakti can be sufficient to raise sexual energy in herself and her lover, it is the man's bhakti that will decide the degree to which this can be done in sexual union.
As a result, in tantric sex, the roles of a man and a woman are very different. In certain ways, though, their functions are similar. Both the male and the woman must be interested in the intelligent control of the man's ejaculation for tantric sex to occur. This is true in the early stages of understanding tantric sex and will continue to be true for a while.
With time and practice, the man gains custody of his sperm and is no longer reliant on his partner to control his ejaculation. When all parties have achieved this stage of proficiency, they are able to develop sexual energies forever – the equivalent to a continuing mega siddhasana, if you will.
We've also seen Asian paintings of tantric couples playing musical instruments, reading poems, meditating, or engaging in long loving conversations. This isn't necessarily what we think of as sex, let alone tantric sex, in the West.
Nonetheless, this is tantric sex in its purest form: a long pre-orgasmic cultivation of sexual energies in the service of lovemaking. There are a few items worth mentioning.
To begin with, tantric sex is not a positive end in and of itself. It is not a yoga exercise in and of itself.
Tantric sex is a weak activity for purifying the nervous system internationally on its own. The main techniques for this are meditation and pranayama.
Orthodox bandhas and mudras, siddhasana, and kumbhaka are very useful for stimulating sexual energy upward until any purification has occurred. The sushumna (spinal nerve) and the thousands of nerves in the body experience an increase in ecstatic conductivity as a result.
Tantric sex, particularly for sexually active yogis and yoginis, may play a role in this. We don't engage in tantric activity to make ourselves more sexually engaged.
If we are not sexually engaged, it is something we should do to develop our yoga. As a result, the aim of this conversation is not to encourage anyone to engage in more tantric sex.
You're in great shape if you have light to moderate sex and enjoy your advanced yoga activities. Don't engage in romantic escapades just to learn these lessons. This tantric sex lessons are for those who are still sexually involved and are looking for opportunities to incorporate their sexual activities into their yoga practice as a whole.
It may seem to others that putting orgasm on the back burner while honing our capacity to nurture sexual energy relentlessly upward is a bad idea. It can seem like we're tossing the baby out with the bath water. After all, orgasm is the most intense sensation we've ever had. This is a reasonable and reasonable question, and we are correct in asking, "What about orgasm?" “How does it turn out?”
This are not anti-orgasm lectures. The path of Advanced Yoga Practices is, in effect, a path of relaxation and ecstasy. Orgasm is a physiological ecstatic reaction elicited by a certain form of stimulus – sexual stimulation that is biologically directed toward reproduction.
The joyful reaction in the body that we call "enlightenment" is elicited by a specific form of stimulus – stimulation elicited by advanced yoga activities that is biologically geared toward the birth of our knowledge in unending bliss consciousness and spiritual ecstasy.
Is orgasm sacrificed for enlightenment?
Enlightenment, on the other hand, is a flowering of ecstasy, an extension of pleasure into an everlasting full bloom in the entire body.
Divine ecstasy, according to Ramakrishna, is like countless yonis (female sex organs) engaged in continuous orgasm in every atom and pore of our flesh.
So, while it may seem at first that we are putting something vital on the back burner, what Advanced Yoga Practices are actually doing is steadily extending our orgasmic reaction into the celestial realms through our purifying and opening nervous system. There, we discover that ecstasy has no bounds in terms of severity or length. It's just a matter of training our nervous systems to reveal what's already inside us.
Much of this is done because of our desire. Every day, we make a new decision about our path.
You may also want to read more about Tantra Yoga here.
